Cruelty IS the point....remember that as we fight against that cruelty.

Dobbs has been decided. We are devastated and angry. That is understandable.


It's PRIDE week. Celebrate PRIDE this weekend. Laugh and love and take what pleasure you can right now because on Monday we will have to start fighting for rights that we thought we had.

For Trump and his ilk cruelty was always the point. Remember that because they WANT us to feel hopeless and depressed. Any activity in the face of hopelessness is a revolutionary act of defiance. It take practice and it will take work but we will win. IF we do everything we can to win the control of the U.S. Senate in November, we can undo this.


We must take joy in fighting the antis. This was always going to be an uphill battle, but we can win it. "So keep fightin’ for freedom and justice, beloveds, but don’t you forget to have fun doin’ it. Lord, let your laughter ring forth. Be outrageous, ridicule the fraidy-cats, rejoice in all the oddities that freedom can produce. And when you get through kickin’ ass and celebratin’ the sheer joy of a good fight, be sure to tell those who come after how much fun it was." wrote Molly Ivins in the Spring of 1993. Laugh and be happy while fighting the good fight, because that joy is what will keep you going when it looks like we might not win.

All people have bodily autonomy, even women.

Thank you for all you do.

When You Decide to Have Sex You Are Not Handing Over Control of Your Body to the State

When I saw Alison Leiby's Oh God! A Show About Abortion I was struck when Leiby said that 25% of women will terminate a pregnancy during their lifetime, but we don't talk about how common this experience is. This silence - with a taint of supposed shame - is what helps legislators pass legislation regarding abortion and is why women live in fear of getting pregnant when they don't want to be.

Our language determines how we think and talk about abortion. I'm actively "pro-choice" because I think that women should not be forced to have children they don't want, and I think we have advanced socially enough to separate having sex (which is how most people get pregnant) with actually BEING pregnant. To say "I don't think having sex means you have to have children" is simple. People have sex for any number of reasons and actively participating in the procreation of the species is only ONE of those reasons that people have sex with one another.

We're waiting for the U.S. Supreme Court to issue a decision on Thomas E. Dobbs, State Health Officer of the Mississippi Dept of Health v Jackson Women's Health Organization, but a draft by Justice Alito was leaked to Politico.

I thought I could start a blog with a short URL to ensure women maintain control over what happens to their bodies even if they have sex with men. This is also a test. There is a law in Texas making it a crime to provide information to someone who wants an abortion. Is this website a crime if it's not hosted in Texas?

Many of these organizations need financial help; some need political advocacy, some ask for digital advocacy. If you don't need an abortion but want to help those who can, look here for organizations that ask for help.

Why you may want an abortion is nobody's business but your own.

All people have bodily autonomy, even women.

Thank you for all you do.

Do you want to provide financial support?

I get it. Our lives are difficult and not everyone can be out there working as an clinic escort or counter protesting the antis. These are organizations that will gladly take your money so that we can all have the right to control what happens to our bodies whether or not we're having sex.

Below I have listed organizations that will happily take your money to help protect a woman's right to control what happens to her body.

Abortion Care Network's members are local providers including small business owners, non-profit clinics, women’s health centers, family planning clinics, physicians’ offices, as well as academics, journalists and advocates all working to bring the abortion care to communities throughout the United States. To donate click here.

The ACLU Reproductive Freedom seeks to uphold the rights of all individuals to decide freely, whether or not to bear a child. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, they strive to ensure that all in our society have access to sexuality education, contraception, abortion, prenatal care, and childbearing assistance. Click here to make a donation.

The Center for Reproductive Rights is a global human rights organization working to ensure reproductive rights are enshrined in law. To donate click here

If you want to give money to help support abortion services in a particular state, Donations for Abortions has done your work for you.

Planned Parenthood will help you with all sorts of reproductive health services including abortion, testing for stds and general health questions. All people have bodily autonomy, even women.

Thank you for all you do.

DIY Advice

Emergency Contraception is an FDA approved method of stopping conception; these pills can be taken five days after sexual activity that MIGHT have caused a pregnancy ("SHIT! There's a hole in this condom!"), but they are most effective when taken within 72 hours. Plan B One Step and Next Choice are both available without a prescription.

All people have bodily autonomy, even women.

Thank you for all you do.

Resources if you need help getting to an abortion clinic.

These are links to organizations who will help you if you need assistance to get to an abortion clinic.

The Brigid Alliance helps to arrange and fund confidential, personalized travel support to those seeking abortion care in increasingly hostile environments. In partnership with a network of funds and providers, we are closing the gap between the right to an abortion and the ability to access one.

The Crisis Textline provides free support 24/7 via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to be connected to someone who can help you when you are in any crisis situation.

I Need an a provides basic information if you need an abortion. They will ask your age and zip code and give you information about where you can have an abortion performed nearby. They also provide links to stories of other women who have had abortions, and links to other organizations that do advoacy.

Abortion Finder claims to provide "the most comprehensive directory of trusted (and verified) abortion service providers in the United States" but they also provide information about different abortion procedures including medical abortion and a comparison between them all.

All people have bodily autonomy, even women.

Thank you for all you do.